10 Signs you are in a Toxic Relationship
When a romantic relationship exists between partners, friends, or coworkers, Unhealthy behaviors aren't always as obvious as they seem. Mostly signs of a toxic relationship are easy to spot for example cases of blatant infidelity or physical violence, but there can often be more subtle signs that something is certainly not right between you and your partner—or between you and a close friend, a coworker, or a family member. (It's not just romantic relationships that can become toxic.)
It's important to pay attention to how a relationship really makes you feel no matter what form it takes, says Andrea Bonior, PhD, adjunct professor of psychology at Georgetown University and author of “The Friendship Fix.” "Keeping a finger on your own emotions can help you develop insight about the people in your life, so as to choose healthier situations."
So here are 10 signs that shows you are in a Toxic Relationship
5 VITAL SIGNS OF A TOXIC RELATIONSHIP
You Don't Appreciate Each Other
Relationships often go south when partners start to take each other for granted. In a study carried out in 2015 at the University of Georgia, married people who felt appreciated by their spouse—and were acknowledged when they did something nice—reported higher marital quality than those who didn't. This shows the power of 'thank you,' according to study author Allen Barton in a press release.
Your Partner Gets Physical
Sometimes people misinterprets intimate partner violence for something else, although physical violence isn’t always as obvious but situations whereby you "Grab her arm and saying 'Get back here, I'm not done talking to you,' or gripping his face and saying, 'Look at me when I talk to you,'—these behaviors don't necessarily cause physical damage, but they do represent low-level boiling-over points of conflict," says Quirk. Occasionally, these attitudes are overlooked when a woman does it and for a long time, society accepted it as funny or spunky, but we wouldn't look at it the same why if the genders were reversed and these are carried out by a man
You've been lied to
Occasional little white lies in any relationship aren't a bad thing, especially when they're told to protect someone you care about. When you catch a friend or romantic partner in a lie, you must try your best to look at that person's motivations, says Quirk. "Were they trying to engage in some behavior they know you wouldn't be supportive of? If this is the case, then it’s really a scary place to be, because it's a strategy they might continue to use," she says. The best thing you just have to do is make it clear that dishonesty won't be tolerated in your relationship, especially if you've noticed a pattern that's likely to keep repeating.
Your Relationship is totally one-sided
In any form of relationship, be it romantic, friendship etc. If you're the one who always reaches out, or you always make more of an effort in ensuring you are together or the gist and talks are always one sided and never about you. "If in any relationship, it's always about your partner’s needs and they never help meet yours, you have to ask yourself if it's really healthy for you."
Your partner tries to make you jealous
Sometimes in a relationship, when someone feels insecure, he or she may try to overcome that feeling or at least preserve it by flirting with other people in front of you. "This may have its desired effect, but it's not the most honest, constructive way to address problems in your relationship," says Quirk. There’s the tendency it can backfire, so instead of giving your partner more affection, you may just get angry or decide to retaliate with manipulative behaviors of your own which is not good for a healthy relationship. When you feel insecurity in your relationship, you should really come to your partner and talk openly about feeling neglected or lonely and not wait till you figure it out or get your attention in deceptive ways.
Those are the 5 vital signs that shows you are in a toxic relationship, however these are not the only signs that points to a toxic relationship and others include:
- Your pal is stuck in the past
- Hanging out feels like a duty
- Your partner teases you all the time
- You feel isolated from other friends and you can't be yourself
- Bad Behavior Is Encouraged
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